By Jennifer Vanasco ,
07.23.2010 11:03am EDT
My partner Jenny and I didn’t know what to expect on our first cruise. Would we  get seasick? Would we get along? Would we get the Norwalk Virus?
Our ship- The Ryndam!
In our first year and a half together we had done only a little  traveling  – to Chicago, to DC for the Inauguration, and to North  Carolina to  visit relatives. We have pretty different styles: Jenny is  more social and  does more advance destination research; I’m more  spontaneous, bring a  lot of reading material along and am more prone to  napping.
Neither of us were sure we were “cruise people.” Jenny  worried about  feeling trapped or getting sick. I worried about hating  everyone and  seeing only Disneyfied versions of the countries we were  visiting.
It turns out that we I had a great time on Olivia’s 20th anniversary cruise to the Western Caribbean (we were their guests) –   still, there are things we wish we had known before stepping on board.
Here are the nine things you need to know before you go off cruising  into the sunset.

Jenny and Jay monkey around on an excursion  to a Honduras zoo.
1. Know thyself. There is a lot to do on a cruise   ship. Maybe too much. Every hour or so on our ship, there would be an   announcement about some incredibly fun activity happening somewhere   else.
There are BBQs. Pool games. Informative seminars. Comedians. Dessert   extravaganzas with chocolate fountains and bread baked in the shape of   mice. Before you go, talk to your partner (or have a long conversation  with  yourself) about what you actually need.
 
- Are you looking for serious R&R? Then limit yourself to one  activity a day, sleep in, and don’t get off at every port.
 
- Trying to immerse yourself in the lesbian community you don’t  get  at home? Go to the social hours, sit with new people during meals and   dance into the night.
 
- Looking for adventure? Get off the ship early at your port of call   and have your excursions lined up in advance. Use your at sea days to   relax.
 
- Just know what you want before you get there, so you don’t  stumble off the ship needing a vacation from your vacation.
 We did not do this. Instead, we tried to do everything possible   (you’ll get a hint of what “everything possible” is by  watching the  video we made of Jenny.  And no, she wasn’t really drinking a beer  on the treadmill.) We took a  dance class. We swam in the pool. We went to  mixers. We went to the  shows. We met the Indigo Girls.  We were so tired that we got off the ship and slept for two days  straight.

One of the many social events onboard - a  lesbian dance.   
2. Bring a sweater. In my  imagination, cruises are all bikinis and fruity drinks on the outside Lido  Deck.
 In reality, when the boat is moving, it can be windy and cold. Also,   ships keep the air conditioning up high in the inside public areas. So   have a light jacket – and have warm clothes for dinner, socializing at   the bar, gambling, and other indoor activities. You see the same people   over and over. Don’t let them see you in the same sweatshirt every   night.
 
3. Carry business cards. Maybe not those stodgy ones  from the corporate office. But a lot of women made
up special couple cards  from places like  Vistaprint.com that had both their names, their home contact info and  their cabin number.
Then carry them. Business cards do you no good if they’re hiding  in the top drawer of the dresser in your cabin.
  
Also, if you’re floating away on Olivia, decorate your door. That  way  people can find you – and they will leave you messages if you put  up a  wipe-off board. It’s like college!  But no homework.  And, unless you  went to a women’s college (I did!) a lot more  ladies.

The Indigo Girls were on board! 
4. Do your research. Sure, you can let the cruise   line do everything for you, including selling you port excursions. But   you’ll spend a lot less money – and likely have more fun –  if you plan  your excursions yourself.
 
TripAdvisor and  CruiseCritic  have advice in each port of call; sometimes you can get  actual footage  of excursions on YouTube. Olivia has a great bulletin board  where you  can meet women before you sail and invite others to join you on   excursions you plan yourself.
Jenny and I went swimming with dolphins in Cozumel, inner-tubed down a   river running through a cave in Belize and made friends with locals in   Honduras. We did our sightseeing with smaller groups than if we had gone   with the cruise line’s choices, saw more areas that were not   specifically geared toward tourists and saved about $350.
5. Watch your alcohol. You will be offered Bloody   Marys with breakfast, beers with lunch, cocktails with dinner – and   specialty drinks anytime you step out of your stateroom. All that  drinking  is expensive (even soda adds up), so know before you go how  much you can  afford and keep track of your libations. Some who have  posted on cruise  bulletin boards say that they have come home to several  thousand dollars  worth of drink charges. Yikes.
 
If you know that you need your nightly – and afternoon and  morning –  cocktail, then most ships have drink cards you can buy in  advance at a  discount. It’s likely only worth it for really big  drinkers, though –  most women on our cruise were giving their drinks  away by the end.
 
6. It’s fun to be single. Olivia has special  meet  and greets and excursions for solo travelers. On our cruise, they   traveled in packs and always seemed to be having a great time.
 We found it tough to make friends with other couples (women seemed to   be looking for a romantic vacation for two, or already were sailing  with  many other friends) so if you’re cruising for the first time –   weirdly – going single might be best. Or hey, just go to the single   social hours. No one will stop you.
One of the ship's pools was outdoor when docked  and indoor while seabound!
    
 
7. Sanitize. The Norwalk Virus, H1N1 and the common   cold are all hanging out around a ship’s handrails, doorknobs and  public  bathrooms. Try not to shake hands. Cough into your elbow. Wash your   hands whenever you pass a sink. And use all that hand sanitizer that is   everywhere.
 
If you get sick – you’ll be quarantined in your room. Jenny  caught a bad cough the last day, but otherwise we were illness-free.
 
8. Lesbian cruises: they’re not for cruising.  Sure,  there are women who met their partners on an Olivia cruise. But  unlike  cruises for gay men, there’s not much of a hookup vibe. Most  people come  with their partners or in tight groups. If you want some  action, you  should go looking on land.
 
9. Prepare for re-entry. I didn’t get seasick on  the  ship – but I sure did get landsick when I got home. My kitchen  floor  was rolling for days (this is not uncommon for people on week-long   cruises). Happily, we also had messages from people on Facebook we had  met  on the cruise, great stories to tell our friends and silly pictures  of us  playing with dolphins. (We also had a great 12 hours in Tampa after wards.)
 Women who’ve been on one Olivia cruise tend to take another  – and we  can see why. By the second day, Jenny and I were making  lists of what we  would bring next time and how we would plan  differently.
Once you know what to expect and how to plan, you can lay back and let  the cruise ship do the rest.

Guests were greeted everyday with a new towel  animal.    
 
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